Improve Your Relationship

Created for Connection Online: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples can show you and your partner the way home.

The Created for Connection program can help you and your partner in the following ways:

  • Improve your relationship by strengthening your bond
  • Better conflict resolution and positive problem solving as well as co-operation around key issues such as financial difficulties or parenting
  • Better mental health – less depression, less anxiety
  • Better self image
  • Better physical health thanks to improved immune functioning.

Secure adults have better relationships. They are more empathic to others, and better care-givers. They also know what they need and understand how to ask for support when the going gets tough.

A responsive, caring bond with your partner provides the emotional balance needed to deal with life's challenges – from everyday problems to major crises such as a global pandemic.

The Created for Connection program is the only program found to both improve relationship satisfaction and foster a more secure bond. This online version is based on the only model of brief couple intervention validated in over 20 outcome studies demonstrating long term positive results.

The book offers scriptural support, inspiring stories, practical stories and a clear road map that will show you how you can join together and actively shape the love you are looking for – the love that leads you home to a loving God.

Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help.

Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the most tested and effective form of couple interactions based on the newscience of adult bonding. Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God.

The message of CREATED FOR CONNECTION is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection. Filled with Bible verses, inspiring real-life stories, and guidance, CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.

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“Created for Connection is a foundational and innovative tool to fix and upgrade Christian marriages.”

-Dr. Lewis R. Winston

Watch Dr. Sue Johnson explain how Created for Connection can help you and your partner today.

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Testimonials & Reviews


"I had purchased this book to seek an understanding of relationships from a faith based perspective. I am not a practicing Christian, but raised Catholic in name. First, I found this book to be easy to read, the layout and organization flows from chapter to chapter. In addition, the practicality of the exercises and way the seven conversations can play out in a relationship was extremely helpful to read and connect to. I did not find the book overtly Christian, but rather a way that relationships are presented from different sides of understanding."


"I've been a practicing Christian for over thirty years. I have a degree in theology. And I had what all outside observers thought was a great marriage. Only after my marriage was close to dissolving did my wife and I seek out counseling. We chose our counselor partly because of her explanation of EFT. She recommended this book and I can say that the effects of reading this book, examining myself, and discussing it with my wife have been life altering. I only wish that this book had been available and that we had read it at the beginning of our marriage as it might have saved us from the greatest strife in our married life. This book is well-researched and yet practical, well-reasoned and yet emotionally engaging. Furthermore, as a Christ-follower the spiritual content does not feel "shoehorned" in, but instead faithfully synthesizes the age old truth of God's love and plan of redemption with proven scientific, clinical research. I cannot recommend it highly enough."


"The content of the book is the most important information and practice that any couple, Christian or not, can put into play for their marriage. This book is for anyone who wants depth and wholehearted love to grow throughout their married life."


"The tools and resources this book provides are invaluable. I love that it combines science with the Christian faith. All marriages, no matter how long you’ve been married, can benefit from this book."


"I have purchased so many books for a hurting a marriage, it is ridiculous. If only I had found this first, could have save myself a lot of time, money, heartache, and effort. This is really a great book, with so much truth, honesty, and involves God. Really worth the investment."


"My wife and I are half way through this book. Applying the principles and practical exercises in this book is seriously helping to transform our marriage and bring us into deeper intimacy, as God intended. The research on Attachment Theory is sound and, to me, confirms what the bible teaches about how God has wired us to be in relationship. I'm also looking forward to the end of the book and also having my relationship with God deepened to a new level."


"I have read at least seven different books on marriage to help mine and my husband’s marriage. All the others had elements that applied to our marriage, this one was the only one that cut to the heart of the problem. It has been incredibly helpful to repairing our marriage. I hope it helps you as well."